So you don't forget what to say, try to make a list of what you feel you have to whisper to the sleeping one.
Your monologue should start with:
a STATEMENT OF LOVE You may tell him/her about actual events that made you realize how
much you value this child. You can even include things like: you were such a good baby, or your
grandpa is so proud of you, or even I remember how funny you were when you were less than two
years old, etc.
The next part should be:
a statement of the PROBLEM. It should be in your simple words and may
include how you feel (I am worried) or what the reactions of people are (they are angry at you)
The third part should be
a PROPOSALfor a solution (can you at least listen before you get upset or try to understand why
we do certain things)
The last part is
just an AFFIRMATION OF your LOVE for the child, as well as you willingness to help.
We have found that many of these sleeping children seem to answer the person doing the 'sleep-talking', but the older ones do not remember doing so. Do not assume that they are awake -- just continue with what you have to say.
The best time for a session seems to be in the early morning, before the child wakes up. We have done sessions with children who are just dropping off to sleep and this seems to work, too, but the morning session works most dramatically.
There are several elements in an effective or successful script: